Thursday, June 14, 2012

Special Request

A friend of mine made a personal request for topic. He asked a couple of questions and I will try and tackle them in the best way possible. But I welcome others to also give your input on the matter as well.

1.       Do people’s “superficialness” get in the way of finding true love? I say that because I hear a lot of females want a guy that has a house, nice car, and dress a certain way or make a certain amount of money and the blue collar male doesn’t really look all that appealing to them.

Well I guess I’ll just go ahead and tell you my short answer. No, but I do understand how you can come up with the conclusion that it does.
 In my opinion what’s really going on is when certain females look at these things they get a concept of a “man”. It shows his commitment, dedication and drive to get the things that he wants and women will translate that to .. “Well, he would be dedicated to me and committed because I could be something he wants, right?” We have to understand the outward qualities is not always the best way to gain insight of someone’s internal qualities. Which is where you are coming from but hey it does work sometimes. So how can you argue with them? The real problem I see with thinking this way is it translates emptiness, the relationship won’t always turn out to be about what it was intended to become. It will just be about the things.
Let me say, I’m not materialistic but I appreciate material. I had a relationship where I didn’t care how much he made or what he had, the relationship was based on his personality and interests (this is wrong thinking by the way) but he wanted me to be more superficial (funny huh?) There are more details to that but my point is it’s not just one sided. Some men think that if they don’t see things happening for them they are not doing something right. Who knows which one came first the man concept from being so hard on themselves as a provider or women’s concept of what a provider should look like?
The TRUTH is even this won’t deter finding true love. You can find people who believe in superficial and they will love it and all the things the gain from this “love” and live Happily Ever After. Some people just have a different definition of love. For me.. God is love..He provides.. and it’s a hard but simple concept to grasp by many people. The only true thing that gets in the way of finding “true” love is not having a solid foundation and you will find yourself trying to rely on making one with another person if it’s not strong. Which brings me to your next question….

2.       And what happened to two people building something together?

It doesn’t exist. I know that’s harsh and you maybe like “Geeze,  Grace how cynical of you to say such a thing, Do you even believe in true love?” Yes, of course I do but I don’t believe in a “perfect” love presented by man. Tell me, what are you building that you would need help from a person you met and became familiar with? Your life? A home, family?  Well, you can do that by yourself. Even if a single woman wanted children there’s a bank where they can receive a generous donation towards the cause. I’m being too real now huh? I think what’s difficult for people is getting rid of concepts that the world presents in ads and promotions to sale goods and products without leaving them discouraged with life. This is when all things seem pointless, meaningless, in vain.
 Love just is. It doesn’t build because it would be what you build up to. So you and your significant other should have already been working on this as individuals even before getting to know each other.  So where does this love come about? Remember when I said God is love, he created it, built it, it’s Divine! We accept His love and when you choose the individual to marry you are honoring this LOVE, honoring Him. That’s why it’s is signified by a vow to God to commit to this love and your partner is your personal, first-hand witness of this vow. You both are there as a witness for each other,  to make sure you both keep this vow to HIM. Your partner was the best candidate for you to keep your “foundation” strong. So you are not building because it’s already built! You are keeping . 
So then the next question is what happened to understanding this? Well there are many pitfalls that man has created for themselves from getting this but remember in my lesson notes when I said we fight not against flesh and blood … well it goes back to that. I encourage everyone following this blog to keep studying His word. And seeking after His wisdom, even God’s foolishness is wiser than man’s wisdom. 

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Tunnel Vision

Lesson 3

Am I doing this right? Everything looks great but what’s for ME? I know what I want to do but is this what I should do?  Why not I know I’ll like it?

I read a story the other day of a young college graduate who was medical school bound. She did everything to the plan, excelled in all her studies and was moving forward to become a doctor. One day she was approached by the CEO of a record label who saw the way she dressed and asked her to please style one of his new artist he had just signed on. She had never styled anyone before, didn’t even know what a stylist was and it definitely wasn’t in the “plan” but she went for it and what a success it turned out to be. She is now the CEO and fashion stylist of her own consulting firm.
This story doesn’t happen everyday. In certain cases many will go on to actually becoming the doctor. But what was it that she had in her possession that made her make that decision to become something other than what she “knew” her passion to be. The questions above are not wrong questions to ask in fact they are encouraged. The key is knowing when to ask them. Sometimes we want something so bad we can taste it and even to the point where we predict when and how it should be happening for us. So we put our self in a box on focusing on one thing really hard and then we look up and nothing happened for some we stay here until we see results and for others they begin to dip and dabble in many other things just to see a result. The thing is we don’t know what the future holds, what the present will bring some things may feel like they are done in vain. Nothing is new under the sun everything has been tried even down to the good deeds or charity that you do but what makes it different, what makes it fulfilling to go through the mundane and seek after the “riches” of this world? Solomon describes it best in the book of Ecclesiastes when He says “There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens..” (3:1) “So I saw that there is nothing better for a person than to enjoy their work, because that is their lot. For who can bring them to see what will happen after them?” (3:22)
So what you’re trying to say is I should just be happy for nothing? No, You should be happy for everything. God shows us this through His wisdom, which is His will for us to use Him as our foundation.
After looking up these two words in the dictionary:

1.       Wisdom=Enlightenment
2.       Foundation- The basis or groundwork of anything, the natural or prepared ground or base on which some structure rests.

Enlightenment is what we experience from using His wisdom it shows us the time and season to use His wisdom. So in essence it all jus goes back into itself to be used even more which leads to the word “foundation” If wisdom of God be your true foundation then it will always return back to you. Your relationships should begin to reflect this trait.

I challenge you all to look more into what is the prepared ground on which you rest. Simply Study! If you feel u don’t know where to begin, just start from the TOP the beginning Genesis.